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19 jan 07 The thing that confuses me is how people aren't <I>embarassed</I> about favoring Asian girls. Everyone has all kinds of weird preferences in their heads, but usually have enough shame to not vocalize them. I'm always shocked at how people just openly admit "I'll only marry an Asian girl." It's appalling. P.S. Black girls being exclusively overweight is kind of an Eastern seaboard thing. There are lots of gorgeous black girls on the West Coast. The thing that confuses me is how people aren't <I>embarassed</I> about favoring Asian girls. it is pretty embarrassing. by the way: i'm not parsing your <I> tags as html -- they come across literally in my email. but what's even more embarrassing is that when i paste down your question in the html doc i'm editing, your tags are functional, and would display italics as you intended when i publish it, but i'm using html's special characters to render your brackets literally. i want to foil your efforts at thinking you're badassed and using html. no, really -- that's what i saw in my inbox (the literal brackets), so that's what you get here. poo-poo. also: the xhtml standard calls for all lower-case tags. you suck. i'm not going to check my logs -- i don't want to know whom i'm insulting here. what if it's, like, my mom? when someone says "i'll only marry an asian girl", all sorts of geisha girl implications are conveyed to me, like she's going to be properly subservient, cleaning the toilet, etc. on the other hand, if someone were to say "i'll only fuck asian girls", then this is a little less appalling; at least, as i say in an earlier answer, no more appalling than saying "i'll only fuck tall men". how about "i'll only marry rich men"? beautiful women? etc. i guess we're taken aback when someone says they favor asian women because we've become so hypersensitive to racial and ethnic issues and divisions. Everyone has all kinds of weird preferences in their heads, but usually have enough shame to not vocalize them. it sounds to me like you might not think it's so terrible to be more attracted to asian girls than other categories of girl, but just that it's terrible to come out and say it. i'd be sort of embarrassed to go around town with an asian girl, because it's become such a cliche. i'd just imagine everyone thinking "oh god, not another white man/asian woman couple". here, how bout this: ill make a list of categories of girls, and you can tell me if you think it's ok to (dis)like them based on their membership in said category.
why is it less appalling, yet again borrowing your word, to want to marry only smart women than it is to want to marry only asian women? or only short, stupid, multilingual, autistic, sociopathic australian aborigine women? these are all just adjectival categories -- but the ones that set off the "might i be racist?" alarms in your head are the ones you object to. this is fine, but maybe some people don't care so much about this. and i agree with you, basically -- "i only date asian women" is a dumb thing to say, and makes you sound like a knuckle-dragger. but only dating asian women might increase the percentages in finding a mate for some more quickly if time is a factor. I'm always shocked at how people just openly admit "I'll only marry an Asian girl." It's appalling. indeed, it's tantamount to saying "race x is better than race y". "i won't be friends with a black person" is, somehow to me, even more appalling, even though it's in the same league. and, of course, a statement like that is racist - the speaker hasn't met every asian woman and every non-asian woman. a clear example of subdividing and then assigning uniform traits based on the subdivisions. that said, i suppose i'm no one to say that this attitude is bad or wrong -- indeed, everyone is entitled to marry or befriend whomever they want. but, as you say, it's a little weird when they come out and trumpet their racialist attitudes for all to hear. to ellaborate more on the asian-white phenomenon, i'll mention something that i didn't really cover in my previous two other essays on the subject: the lack-of-intimidation factor. let's say that in a room there is a man and two women, one of whom is asian, and the other of whom is white. the women are equally pretty. in a lot of cases, the man is going to go for the asian woman because he feels that she's in his league, unlike the equally-pretty white woman, who is the property of the alpha males hammering on the door. something about her being asian makes her less intimidating to him. perhaps its her racial status as a minority, or perhaps it's his perception of that geisha subservience. whatever the case, the pretty asian girl is going to be more accessible to the white man than the pretty white girl. P.S. Black girls being exclusively overweight is kind of an Eastern seaboard thing. There are lots of gorgeous black girls on the West Coast. i can get in a certain mode where all i'm attracted to are black girls (i'm using lots of emphasis-italics here just to piss you off, because i won't let you use them too). when i was working at the chicken delivery place with the various immigrants, on at least two occassions i travelled in a car with four black people to a strip club featuring all black dancers and an all black clientel, in baltimore, which is itself 85% black. "when in rome...", as they say. |
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